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Recognizing Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

Posted by Tami Baker on February 16, 2019 at 8:50 PM
Toxic people do more harm than good, because they have so much poison inside them from their conflict with God and themselves that it spills out in emotional, spiritual and physical damage to others. They leave you feeling emotionally drained, exhausted and can even leave you feeling distant from God. These people are emotionally immature, narcissistic, and constantly try to manipulate others. ~ Scripture Says~ Ro. 12:18 If it be possible, as much as lieth in you; live peaceably with all men. Even toxic people need to be loved. It is our duty {as christians} to pray for those that despitefully use us. Matt. 5;44 But I say unto you, Love you enemies, bless them that curse you, do good the them that hate you, and pry for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you. That being said, sometimes toxic people will not live at peace with you, no matter how hard you may try: we must try our best....BUT Living with Peace does not mean we have to associate with them and let them into our lives. It means we have to forgive them in our hearts and let God. handle the rest.. Ro. 12:17 Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. {Give careful thought to do what is honorable in everyones eyes. Ro.12:19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath; for it is written, Veneance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. ~ HOW TO DEAL~ First acknowledge that you cannot fix toxic people. Only God can. Next, acknowledge that you didn't cause it and you can't cure it. The only person that can change a toxic person is God and they will only change if they are willing to let God change their heart. It's really hard to cut people out of your life, especially if they mean a lot to you; but; there comes a point when it's time to rid the negativity in your life and focus on your mental, emotional and spiritual health.. ~HOW DO YOU DO THIS~ Focus on keeping your heart at peace, with God and with yourself. Let them know how you feel, but, stick to your decision. Toxic people can be manipulators, so don't let them try and win you over, and change your mind. It can happen easily when you're in a vulnerable position. You must be very clear; let your yes be yes, and your no be no! Set boundaries, build a fence for you to stay in and them to stay out. Be clear about what is acceptable and what isn't. It's your decision {with God's guidance} what you will allow in your life. Stick to your decision. {easier said then done}. Stay true to your word or toxic people will walk all over you again and again. Say what you mean and mean what you say {this is my mottoa in a lot of areas of my life}. You owe it to your happiness to get rid of the negativity for good. Pray about it. Prayer is the most important thing you can do.{ It;s the best revenge} It's our job to be good, do good, and love our neighbors; God will be the judge and he will handle the bengence accordingly. Do what you need to do to get away from the toxic relationships and God will do the rest. Ro. 12:21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

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